On the way back from our vacation in Phoenix, Arizona last week, Delta Airlines was showing "The Wedding Date", a romantic comedy starring Debra Messing and Dermot Mulroney.In the movie, Kat (Messing) is flying to London to attend her sister's wedding where Kat's ex-fiance (who dumped her) is going to be the best man. To create the illusion that she's moved on with her life and is unaffected by the break-up, she hires an escort (Mulroney) to pretend to be her new fiance'. She found him by reading an interview of him in a magazine.
At one point in the movie, she's talking to Nick (played by Mulroney) about a comment in the interview that she didn't agree with.
She reads the section to him:
"You said (and I quote) , 'I believe every woman has the exact love life she wants...do you honestly believe that I want to be single and miserable? Do you think I want to be hung up on some guy who led me on for years and then -- out of the blue -- shattered my heart?
Nick replies, "First of all, there's no such thing as "out of the blue". And secondly.... yeah, I do."
She's incredulous. She yells "What??"
Nick says,
"When you're ready to let go, to be un-single and un-miserable....you will. Till then...." and walks away.
There's a HUGE lesson there that most people don't get. Even the ones who SAY they get it don't really get it. And you can tell they don't get it because they're not living it.
The basic lesson is very simple: you are where you are right now because that's exactly where you DECIDED to be.
Some people will argue that they didn't choose their present circumstances. Or that it's luck. Or "the breaks". Or they say they're on "part of a learning curve" or something. But the truth is that you can look at every area of your life: your marriage, your bank account, your relationship with others, your parenting, your physical health and the fact remains the same: you are where you are because that's where your opinions, beliefs, and decisions PUT you.
And you can change it at ANY time you want to. All it takes is making a new decision.
Again, most people miss this. They don't understand that it all starts with a DECISION. And most people wouldn't know a real decision if they met one. They have "shoulds" and "wishes". But they don't have "musts". They don't demand excellence in their life in the same way that they would demand oxygen if they were underwater. They settle for less than they deserve. And then they claim that it has nothing to do with them.
Let me give you a tip: the easiest way to become a multiple-six figure earner is to simply DECIDE to be one.
That's it. And if you're chasing prospects...trying to figure out how to pay for an autoship....struggling to find people to sign up in your business....enrolling only 1 or 2 people every now and then.......well, that's because you've decided to be that kind of marketer.
And when you really want to create a massive change in your financial life....when you REALLY want to have days where you earn $5,000 in a single day.....or can create "cash on demand" by working from a hotel balcony where you and your spouse are spending a mid-week vacation.....when you are finally ready to choose and experience prosperity in a way that will let you live a "life without limits"....
...then you will. It really is as simple as that.
Until then, you'll continue to get what you're getting.
The great part about life is that you can live, play and work on any rung of the ladder you want to. But it IS a choice that we all make.If you don't like where you are, change it. It all starts with making the DECISION.
Tony Rush
